15 Thoughts and Behaviors That Will Destroy Your Life

When approaching life challenges, circumstances, and endeavors, we may adopt one or more of these Fixed Mindsets listed below that will sabotage our success. For example, if you lead, manage, and influence others, imagine how you may negatively impact your team or organization. Let’s talk if you identify just one or two of these thoughts or behaviors in your organization. – Jack Perry

  1. I NEED EVERYONE TO APPROVE OF ME
  2. I MUST AVOID BEING DISLIKED BY ANYONE
  3. I MUST SUCCEED IN EVERYTHING I DO TO BE VALUABLE
  4. IT’S NOT OK TO MAKE MISTAKES. IF I DO, I’M A BAD PERSON
  5. OTHER PEOPLE SHOULD STRIVE TO ENSURE I AM ALWAYS HAPPY
  6. PEOPLE WHO DO NOT MAKE ME HAPPY SHOULD BE PUNISHED
  7. THINGS MUST WORK OUT THE WAY I WANT THEM TO
  8. MY EMOTIONS ARE ILLNESSES THAT I CAN NOT CONTROL
  9. I CAN FEEL HAPPY IN LIFE WITHOUT CONTRIBUTING BACK IN SOME WAY
  10. I NEED TO RELY ON SOMEONE STRONGER THAN ME
  11. EVENTS IN MY PAST ARE TO BLAME FOR MY ATTITUDES AND BEHAVIORS TODAY
  12. MY FUTURE OUTCOMES WILL BE THE SAME AS MY PAST OUTCOMES
  13. I SHOULDN’T HAVE TO FEEL SADNESS, DISCOMFORT, OR PAIN
  14. SOMEONE SOMEWHERE SHOULD TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ME
  15. IT IS OK TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF OTHERS TO GET WHAT I WANT