Without a plan, your growth will be small, unfocused and possibly not even existent. There’s no secret that having a plan greatly increases your chances of success. When it comes to your personal development, it’s so different.
For people who are striving to better themselves, but it seems nothing is getting them there, this could be the episode for you. Whether you have tried to put together hundreds on personal development plans or you have never tried one, this episode will break down what you need to get started on a plan that will work.
Join me in this interview where Kerstin Benton interviews me and reveals my secrets to creating a personal development plan that will get you where you want to be.
Kerstin Benton: 00:00 Hi everybody. This is Kerstin Benton and in the studio today, there’s Jack Perry. He’s the CEO and President of SourcePoint coaching. Welcome Jack. Thank you very much. Kirsten, thank you. You’re welcome, So jack, tell me a little bit about your company.
Jack Perry: 00:14 Okay. Um, I own SourcePoint Coaching. First. My coaching is a, I market myself as an executive coaching firm, because of the level of clients in which that I, I work with mostly, but I also help other people that are not so much in the corporate world, but also in our normal world to get through their day to day challenges, day to day uphill battles that they may go through. Sometimes we don’t want to confide in a friend or a family member. So we will hire a coach or say, well, I might hire a therapist or a psychologist or psychiatrist, but most people would like to hire a coach, somebody they can bounce ideas off. And just for the audience’s clarification, a coach is somebody that helps you reach your goals. It’s not my agenda. It’s your agenda and how it were you want to go. And I hope you would steps to get there and a reasonable, feasible way with success along the way. That’s what the coaching does. That’s what I do at ticketing.
Kerstin Benton: 01:26 So, so if you come across somebody, that, that you say, you know, needs to reach some goals, how do you determine, how do you help them determine what those goals are?
Jack Perry: 01:35 That’s a great question. Um, we do, I do an intake just like any professional would. And I asked them just open ended questions. I ask them, what is it? What is it that bothers you the most? What does it keeps you awake at night? What is it that you want to see change in your life? Um, tomorrow? Or what would you like to see in three years, five years, 10 years of your life? And what do we want? How do you want to get there? What would your life look like if you did make those changes in your life? What would your life look like if you did not make those changes? Um, are you going to be doing the same thing over and over again for the next five, 10, 15 years of your life? Or are you going to rise up, get up and do something radical, fanatical, take a risk and make some changes in your life and you sit back and look back at it and go, man, that was a rough ride. But man, I got there. And Man, it is the phenomenal response. And the phenomenal feelings that you get of success are just unbelievable. Unbelievable.
Kerstin Benton: 02:36 So do you feel that most people really do know what they want to do? They just don’t know how to get there. They don’t know how to grow.
Jack Perry: 02:47 I have found with my clients that they have an inkling of where they want to go, what they want to do, but they’re afraid. They’re afraid of the risk.
Kerstin Benton: 02:56 And so how do you help them through that? How do you I,
Jack Perry: 03:00 When people say to me, Jack, I’m afraid of the risk. I’m afraid I’m fearful of the changes I may make in my life. I ask them, where does that fear come from? Who taught you that? Who taught you to believe that, who taught you to to have that type of fear. And I, when I sit back and talk to them and go a little bit deeper dive, I find out that the fear comes from a couple of different places. One is they’re carrying over somebody else’s fear that taught them to be fearful of something years and years ago, maybe when they were a child and they’ve carried it forward, but there’s no validity to it. If you give them the a hundred percent test, I like to call it the census, 100% factual and truthful, this is gonna happen to you. And they go, well, no. I said, then why do you, why are you fearful of this?
Jack Perry: 03:43 The other part of it is that they’re fearful of how am I going to be seen by my friends and family when I start looking different? So don’t worry about what other people, what other people think. Yeah, and that’s not a way to live your life. That’s not, that’s not part of growth. That’s not part of growing. That’s not part of getting the best out of life that you are meant to get out of on this earth, while you’re here. So people get so afraid of what other people think about them, that they stay stagnant, they don’t move forward. And then one day they’re going to sit there on their rocking chair on their porch and going, man, I wish I coulda shoulda and I didn’t do it. I didn’t take that risk, didn’t take that chance. And they didn’t call a coach. They didn’t call Jack.
Kerstin Benton: 04:27 Yeah, Exactly. So, Jack. Can you give us an example of somebody that you have copied that process with and how it changed their life.
Jack Perry: 04:32 Yes. I can give you several, but one that sticks out right now with me is a young lady that I worked with a while back I about a year and a half ago that, wasn’t happy in her job. She did not like being where she was at, but she’d come to work every single day. Like a lot of us and product face and Assad. Yeah. And just went through the motions every single day. But deep down inside she had a passion for confectionary. She had a passion for cakes and pastries and stuff like that. And, uh, and I said, well, why aren’t you doing that? And she goes, well, I don’t know if I’ll make enough money. I don’t know if I’ll do this. I don’t know. So she was, she was, um, um, victimizing herself right off the gate. She was limiting herself right out the gate. So she wasn’t even moving forward in it.
Jack Perry: 05:22 So I said, listen, what’s the worst that can happen? So we did a little bit of a study on that. What’s the worst can happen? What’s the best thing that could happen? And the best things that could happen outweighed the worst things that could happen. She would always have a job. She didn’t have to tell anybody where she was doing on the side. It wasn’t unethical, unreasonable. And she now has flourished. And now she’s at that point where she’s thinking, man, do I quit my job, my corporate job, and do I go on with this? Because she is all over the world. She is all over the world. I would love to give you her name and promote her business. Right? But I can’t do that. I would get lot of trouble doing that. But yeah, but yes, that’s, that’s a wonderful success story. Um, I’ve had, um, in the corporate world, I’ve had clients that have been referred to me by HR and they have had, they said, Jack, I want you to talk to this individual.
Jack Perry: 06:17 They are having their star performer, but they’ve got some stuff that’s getting in their way. And part of the things that get in their way is that, uh, they, uh, have poor communication skills. They don’t know how to talk to employees. They get promoted into a position where what was successful for them here is not going to be successful for them here. And so that gap has gotta be filled. And that gap is usually how they interact with people, how they talk to people, their lack of ability to make relationships with people, their lack of ability to grow and growth and stay and stay constant with the change and the environment of the business and the company and the morals and the values of the company has. And so they think that yelling and screaming and responding emotionally to people all the time is going to get them what they want.
Jack Perry: 07:05 And actually it won’t. It won’t. It’s knee jerk reaction leadership, which is a whole different topic and different subject we can talk about later is not successful and not going to get you the best out of your employees. As you move forward, as you move on and you manage those people.
Kerstin Benton: 07:23 They might not even know that’s the way they’re coming across.
Jack Perry: 07:25 That’s why they hire a coach. Yeah. Um, so I kind of hold the mirror up to people. I hold the mirror up and I explained to them, I said, listen, these folks here can’t tell you what I’m about to tell you now because of the legal obligations are because of HR risk constraints and this, that and the other. Well, let me tell you, um, you’re being a pain in the butt. You know, know your audience. Can’t always say that. Know your audience. But instead you’re being a pain in the butt.
Jack Perry: 07:55 And this is how you’re showing up. You’re doing this, you’re acting like you’re the smartest person in the room. You’re not listening to other people’s positive comments or remarks or contributions. You’re shutting people down in the middle of the conversation. You’re fearful of people maybe getting ahead about for some particular reason. You’re not letting people voice their opinions and thoughts other people, or you’re doing something totally different than what the group had had agreed upon. And you’re causing people not to succeed. You’re causing the team to fail. And I get it. So, um, that, that is another avenue in which I work on with my, with my folks. Now, once again, it seemed a little bit hard, but you always know your audience. And I coach my clients based upon our individual and agreed upon coaching style and agreement. So I don’t come in there a hundred percent hard with people. Um, unless they asked me to. Uh, there are some men and women out there that like that they liked it day to day, hardcore accountability. There are some that say, just, just guide me on and let me know where I want to go. I said, sure, not a problem. We can do that.
Kerstin Benton: 09:08 So it sounds like at the core of all of your work, it starts with the person, the injured person, and their growth within their own life. And then that growth then in turn, follows over to how they are.
Jack Perry: 09:23 Yes, very true. Very true. So, um, I always make sure I touch upon personal and professional growth with my clients. What is it you’re doing to help yourself grow? What are you doing to help yourself see things differently? What is it, what is your personal growth plan? Is it reading a new book? Is it taking a new client? Yeah, taking a new class. Is it, um, uh, try applying for a new position? Is it following your passion? And if you know what your passion is, what are your plans to get there? What is your personal growth plan to get there and to follow your passion? Have you written it down? Have you written down a personal mission statement to yourself and maybe to your family or to your company? And so this is all part of personal, personal growth. We don’t want to become stagnant. And stagnant means that it’s like still water still pond, stagnant water creates muck and we don’t want to do that. So we always want to see, um, the world from a different set of perspectives and different and different set of glasses. So developing a personal growth plan and seeing that success is like, um, I guess like a runner’s high, you know, you run out, you know, you run a marathon and at the very end you get that endorphin, endorphin a rush. You Go, God, I did this, I did this and, did on my own. I did it with, um, with, with the, regardless of the challenges that things are happening in my life and I succeeded in getting it done. And that’s, that’s the juice. That’s the positive thing. And that’s what makes life so fun and so challenging. When you have a personal growth plan and you grow and you grow every single day. I always ask my clients, I say, what is one thing you could improve on tomorrow? Okay, what is one thing? It could be something as simple as, um, as, as reading somebody new, meeting somebody new, what does a new book you can structure read what is, uh, a new language. You could start to learn what is it like to make a plan to travel to a new country.
Kerstin Benton: 11:33 And I think that’s a great point. Yeah. It doesn’t have to be something huge. It can just be one simple step so it’s not so overwhelming. Just get out of that pattern that you have every day or if you’re finding that you’re not happy, why or why am I not happy? Right?
Jack Perry: 11:49 Yeah. Shake it, shake it up. It could be something like, um, I want to lose weight. Right? And so, well, Gosh, what are you doing to lose the weight? Well then we start with some people start to do the whiny and the victimizing, yeah, what are you doing? I said, let’s try walking. Just walk. Why can’t I want to walk? Fine. Just walk for five minutes, walk for 10 minutes, come do something. And then the feeling you get just from doing that, it shows a feeling of success that I’ve done something to move my life forward and that’s what we need. That’s what we need. Yeah.
Kerstin Benton: 12:22 So in our time that we’re about to close, is there anything you would like to tell the audience that really stands out that you feel, it can be a, Let’s do this.
Jack Perry: 12:33 Never ever believe other people’s living beliefs. Never believe other people’s madness. There are people out there that are afraid of your success and they’re afraid of the day that you find out. There are people out there that know you’re good at what you do. They want to hold you back because of their own limiting beliefs. So when you develop a growth plan, be prepared. Now when I say be prepared, I mean be prepared for the people that are trying stand in your way because you are sick and tired of being sick and tired. So today is your day to grow and do great things only for yourself, but for your family and for your heart and for your passion. So I would say don’t stop. Don’t look back. Keep moving forward. That’s right. Tell my clients, and that’s where I would suggest to all of you. Listen to me today. Okay. Be strong.
Kerstin Benton: 13:26 That’s wonderful. Thank you. That’s excellent advice. So guys, Jack Perry, SourcePoint Coaching, do something different. Jack how can they get in touch with you.
Jack Perry: 13:35 Oh Great. Thank you. Um, you can get ahold of me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can visit my website at sourcepointcoaching.com or even just give me a call or a text at (770) 330-9212. And I look forward to seeing and hearing from all of you and have it makes it a wonderful, wonderful day.
Kerstin Benton: 13:55 Wonderful. Thank you guys so much for joining in. See you next time.